Whether you choose to pursue recovery via your doctor, a therapist, a rehab center, a 12 step program or a faith-based program, the common element is that you are going to have to ask somebody for help. Keeping your addiction to yourself only serves as a barrier to enter into a program of recovery.
One of the truisms of addiction is that addicts commonly suffer from what is called “Terminal Uniqueness”. We inwardly feel that our troubles are so large or unsightly that nobody else could possibly understand. There may be feelings of shame or guilt (we’ll get into that one more deeply in a later post), or there may be a fear of coming clean with other people. There may be a feeling that your problems are so unique, that nobody can help. This kind of thinking is a self-defeating delusion.
Allowing other people into the recovery equation humanizes the recovery effort. No matter what your story is, there’s someone else out there who shares a similar experience and has found a solution. You need to find that person.
Bottom line, if you’re looking to recover from alcoholism, do yourself a favor and find another person to confide in. You can’t do this alone.